I agree with Molot
TL;DR Quality is the philosophy that attracts people here, it should never be changed, just expressed clearer.
This is what keeps the site useful.
That said, I am a user that asks a variety of questions, and have had some of them burned by the quick-mod-close. Thinking back on them, this is usually appropriate. Some of them were off topic or whatever. However, I still think some of them were valid questions. And that doesn't change the fact that at the time, I needed answers, and couldn't find them elsewhere on the web. Sometimes all that is needed is a comment pointing out the correct search term or terminology, so I can go find my answer elsewhere.
You're right that the Drupal community at large encourages newcomers, and the SE community at large is somewhat harsh. Your follow up question is a good start at addressing this.
In the end, it is up to each user individually to be friendly to newcomers. Even if you are giving the question-asker what they need, please try to come across as friendly about it. I think we've all experienced at one time or another some curt, off-putting comments. As users here gain more experience it is easy to become jaded; we have to fight that even as we strive for quality.